Walking with Sorrrow

This week I wish to share with you a different thought as a 15-year old girl lost her life in a bizarre accident on January 13th in Winfield.

I have been thinking about the loss of a young life and the stress the community and staff at the District of Lake Country are all feeling from this tragic event. I put myself in the girl’s parents shoes and feel the agony they must be experiencing right now. Parents, many say, are not meant to outlive their children. There is a different kind of grief when that happens. Blame and anger become stronger and a terrible sense of void takes over our lives.

Whether or not we believe in a life after death or a God or a spiritual existence (in whatever form we believe it may manifest itself) the reality is: such a tragedy hurts and it will for the rest of our lives.

I don’t know how to sooth a soul in pain, but we all have a responsibility to comfort and help and move on for the benefit of those who are still with us. Words will not give life back to those who lost it, and death is no respecter of age or gender or social circumstances. But we still need to be there for those who remain.

I find a bit of comfort in the following poem by Robert Browning Hamilton:

“I walked a mile with Pleasure;
She chatted all the way;
But left me none the wiser
For all she had to say

I walked a mile with Sorrow;
And ne’er word said she;
But, oh! The things I learned from her
When Sorrow walked with me.”

I hope you find comfort in those words too.



About alby59

Alberto has a 25-year plus career in Local Government which began as City Manager in Italy. He currently serves as Chief Administrative Officer for the District of Lake Country in beautiful Central Okanagan BC. In addition, Alberto is Adjunct Professor to the Political Science Department of the University of Northern British Columbia and teaches a variety of local government related courses. He has developed a series of lectures on Leadership and Ethics and is designing a Project Management course aimed at Local Government and public sector practitioners. Very active in both his professional and academic life, Alberto has served as President of the Local Government Management Association of BC and the Association of Records Management Administrators of BC and Yukon. He also served as member of the Federation of Canadian Municipalities (FCM) Tsunami Recovery Committee for the reconstruction of communities and local governments in Sri Lanka and Indonesia hit by the 2004 Tsunami and managed an FCM capacity building program with the City of San Fernando, La Union in the Philippines while with the Township of Langley. Alberto has earned facilitator certifications with Franklin Covey and Cognitive Edge, and continues to foster his interest in personal education and professional development. He is an avid reader, music lover, and science fiction movie aficionado. He plays guitar and piano for fun and sings with his wife and his children. He is also very active in his church and community being a former Rotarian and currently serving as the Second Counselor in the Thompson Okanagan (Vernon Stake) Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. However, his most important interest is his family: his wife Silvana and their two children Victor and Grace.
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One Response to Walking with Sorrrow

  1. Ray Dykes says:

    Yes, the departure of children to another world is a difficult time for surviving parents. My own family had a situation in November and the Dad is still lost and despondent. Until we have walked a mile in those moccasins all we can take solice in is there is a loving and understanding God and He knows our grief and our needs.

    As for the rest of us, a kind word, a prayer of comfort, and a helping hand often make a huge difference.

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